CommCorner guest 002: Coach Jessness
Jessica Smith - or Coach Jessness, as her clients and podcast listeners refer to her - is a tech recruiter by day and a career coach (also by day...and night). She's all about turning down all that noise and focusing in on your "'ness," that intuition, direction, and drive that gives you life, happiness, and personal professional peace. It's easy to get burned out - especially in this Hustle Valley - but Jess is focused on health and wellness by reducing stress and pursuing your passions. Her mission is to help people find who they are, express it in a way that resonates with themselves and others, and rise to the top of wherever they want to go. The end result of this is a better, healthier, happier world of people doing well at what they're good at, what they care about, and what they should be doing. Win, win, win.
When she's not slinging mad career advice and diffusing essential oils, Jess is sharing her sparkly personality with basically everyone within ear shot. The antithesis of shy and the definition of confidence and presence, Jess is just a fun, positive person to be around. It's clear she's found and fully embraced her own personal 'ness. Work with Jess if you're a millennial, stressed to the max, and just don't know what you're going to do next. Turn down the noise and turn up your life. This week she's sharing her insight on how to combat the social media noise that's part of all of our personal and professional lives.
Turn down the noise and turn up your life
Let’s be honest - in today’s world, there’s no turning off. Whether it be our phones, computers, tablets, or anything else we have to plug in to charge in order to communicate, we are more connected than ever! The fact that we have to “always being on” makes it increasingly difficult to find balance and to rest in today’s tech-centric world.
The best part is that you won’t EVER hear me suggest we run and hide and live under a rock in order to succeed at life! Social media is a part of our life, every day, but the things we do offline are the things that will balance our mindset and our life.
Let’s have a look at what we can do to make sure our screens don't take over our peace.
ASK FOR HELP
We can’t do it all. It’s impossible, and guess what - It’s okay! When you ask for help it shows maturity and strength when you trust and lean on others. Don’t let asking for help make you feel you can’t do things on your own. We weren’t put on our own individual planets for a reason. You don’t have to do it all alone. Reach out! Perhaps one of the things most lacking in this online world is the space where personal, face-to-face interaction takes place - where emotional availability feels natural and people really share things.
Simulate this environment - fake it until you make it, if you will. Reach out to your network around you and ask for the help you need.
TAKE THE TIME
I’m an on-the-go type of person. I’m usually eating on the run or whipping something up, but that’s no excuse for why we can’t take 20 minutes to sit down at a table and chew. It’s almost inexcusable, if you think about it. We can make time to take care of ourselves because we tend to find the time for the things that are important to us.
That’s it. It’s that simple – take a deep breath, show gratitude for the food in front of you, and enjoy it. Studies show when you are relaxed and appreciative of your meal, it digests better. So next time you cook yourself up a nice meal, slow down. Be mindful about the food you eat, the steps you take, and the little things that you do. Yogis will tell you that you get hurt when you’re not paying attention. That’s when things like stubbing your toe or slicing yourself along with the salad happen. Take the time and take a moment to reflect and enjoy.
When greeted with an idea to engage with something, ask yourself, is this a 'heck yes'? If not, then your answer is no. Follow this rule and you will find yourself in situations that fill you up rather than drain you. There’s no reason to do something if your heart and soul isn’t in it.
I tell my three younger sisters all the time if you don’t want to do something, say no. The other person won’t turn to dust, you won’t explode, and you’re going to have a lot more time for other, more enjoyable, experiences to enter into your life. If you don’t own your own time, someone else will!! This also includes saying no to other types of distractions. This requires some compartmentalization to make sure you’re paying attention to the right things at the right times, but this sort of boxing up of priorities can also be quite freeing. Prepare to see your productivity soar.
TURN UP THE SELF CARE
Setting up a morning routine is the single most important thing you can do to set yourself up for a productive and positive day. I just finished the book Miracle Morning and if you’ve been looking for a secret weapon to add to your routine to help launch you forward, I highly recommend giving this book a read. I also suggest checking out the top books for setting yourself up for success on the Jessness Required website.
When we complete our morning tasks, we feel accomplished before we even step outside the front door. Consider leaving your phone out of your morning routine. Continue your unplugged status until you’re ready to begin your work day. It creates a moving momentum where we will continue to complete tasks throughout our day – making for a productive day. I’ve been practicing a morning routine consistently for the last month, and I’ve seen a huge improvement in my mood and how the rest of my day falls into place. Do I sometimes forget something or feel rushed? Of course. Isn’t being human fun? Find a routine, test it out, and see results.
REACH OUT TO OTHERS
With the world of tech swirling all around us, it can be easy to stay solo and silent and feel disconnected. There are so many times I wonder, “What DO people do on the weekends?” It can be easy to sit around and just wait for the work week to roll around if you don’t make an effort to connect with humans around you. Scrolling your Facebook feed, you almost feel like you’re participating IRL, but are you?
Don’t lose sight of human-to-human contact. It is so important. As time continues to speed up and technology advances, it’s up to you to find ways to wind down and tune in to yourself in the fast-paced world around us. Shut it off. Put it away. Nothing is really that important.
So, tell me, which of the tips above speaks to you the most? Swing over to my insta and share with us @coachjessness!